Category: the Rant Board
I'm feeling generous, you'd better be thanking me, or else I'd say your name and post aa transcript too. You dishonest, bean-brained, dick-sucking, self-fucking, moron! I _trusted you, and now... now you decide to lie to me. I _hate to do this, but I'm gonna use my damned mother's words against you. If you'll lie about the little things, you'll lie about the big things too. You'll lie that you kept my confidence. You'll lie about your age, your face, your wife, her _name! You hope we'll get past this! Yeah. You wanted to tell me? Yeah. You're sorry? Yeah. You can be trusted? Yeah. Totally. I should totally believe everything you say, even after this? Yeah!
Hey Kaela, I'll be on later. Message me so that we can talk about this. Unfortunately, when joining the zone as young ladies, we fall victim to shit like this and most of the time, we are or have been too innocent and naïve to see the signs until it's too late and our little hearts are broken.
This isn't only a Zone issue, but an internet issue.
Maybe schools should open up an asymbly day twice a year or so and talk about internet trust.
However, it happens offline as well, so this is more a human thing.
Oh boy. Yep; Liars are out there everywhere. The zone is a cesspool of them when you're young and naive and vulnerable to a strong connection. You can fall victim to it by being caught by surprise when it happens, or you can be a skeptic till you are satisfied that someone's not bullshitting you. Those of us who are older and wiser didn't get this way through magical means; we've been played or seen it happen often enough that we know better.
So take it as a lesson learned, whatever "it" or "who" you're venting about. And word to the wise: don't post your drama publicly; it'll only bite your ass in the end.
Yes, it probably does happen more on the internet than out in the real world, but believe me it does happen in the real world too. I had a couple of co-workers a few years ago who got involved even though the man was married. After he divorced his wife and was dating the young lady exclusively for awhile, he started cheating on her too. I had to say to her: "Really? You're surprised? Why did you think he would be true to you when you know for a fact he is a cheater?
Lyers are found in all walks of life. I just brush them off and go on with my day.
It does happen in the real world for sure, but the internet makes it easier both to pull off if you're the asshole, or to fall for if you're the victim. Both parties have the advantage or disadvantage, respectively, of being behind a computer screen. It would be easy for me to sit here and say be more careful, or wiser, or whatever, but like Bernadetta said, most of us who have gotten wiser have done so because we got played, lied to, and hurt multiple times first. I'm sorry this happened to you, whoever you're referring to. I know it sucks, and hurts. But Bernadetta is also right that posting publicly about it is probably not the best idea. Seek support from those you know for sure you can trust, in this case probably other female friends. As the anger and pain ease, try to learn the signs of players and liars like this, so that you're more wary of them in the future. Trust me, many times a pattern does emerge, and you can spot them even when they're being sneaky and hiding like wolves in sheep's clothing. .
Margorp, it's easy to shake it off and move on if you haven't gotten much of an emotional connection with whoever said asshole is. When you have, that's much much harder. I can't speak about it from a guy perspective, but I'd say this is true whether you're a guy or girl who has gotten played/lied to, and you loved the person who did it. We hear more about this happening to girls, but I know it happens to guys, too.
I would say it's definitely an easier thing to pull off on the internet. it is also very easy to threaten someone and destroy their life from a great distance, so keep that in mind.
Ah yes, players. Been there and experienced that.
lol Anthony.
Well, the only reason why I said this site was because I haven't experienced that until I joined here, but because of experience, and just learning the hard way, I can read through guys much easier now. It takes a while.
You do learn that we're not all bad. Lol. You'll be able to gain wisdom from this. I will say try not to allow the anger to make you completely embittered.
Life is hard, young grasshoppers.
it sure is, let me demonstrate. Boot to the head!
Hahahaha, Margorp, I haven't heard those in years. They're great. But seriously guys, even though the hard reality is that yes, life is hard when you're not experienced in stuff like this, putting it in some of the ways I've seen it here really does minimize the pain and betrayal when it happens.
People often hurt others because it helps them to feel better about themselves.
Either that, or they're just players, out for a good time, so they say whatever needs to be said in order to get what they want. After the player has gotten it, the one who got played has to deal with the hurt and betrayal, while the player just goes on about finding the next conquest.
Well don't you love that? Young girls are always the one they target. Discrimination much? Whatever. Nice advice, all of you. Yes, there are people who just want to use you. I learnéd that through a person that was pretty obvious. Many can be less obvious. But until I was rejected, I did not see that all he wanted was a sounding board and a box of kleenex. And now this. I'll never trust this person again. AND no, they're not the same person.
Men can be hurt as well. Far be it from me to scail the wall of girl power but it is not just women who become victems.
I've seen some shrude gals out there too, using men like rag dolls. I don't. But, that's because I've had too many people use me for a toy. So you guys out there, your best bet is finding some broken-hearted gals who have been down that road. Most of us with the experience, would move mountains to keep from hurting anyone.
Blessings,
Sarah
Liars are everywhere! Fuck liars! If someone lies to me, I just go away. Just shut up before you start a problem. Because, I found out a week ago that this guy lied to me. Idiots!
My girl! You know how to do it!
Bottom line? Liars suck. I am sorry that you were treated in this manner.
I don't know what happened to make you feel like this, but whatever it is, I'm sorry. Liars are awful, especially when you had their trust and they lied about absolutely everything. And the worst thing is, you don't even know they're lying until you find out. I don't have any words of advice because I've never been through this, but if you ever need to rant or get the words out, message me. I know you don't know me, but it may help because I won't judge.
Finding someone who won't judge is a miracle! I don't know you, but I like you, already.
I'll play the devils advocate here, did you take the time to get to know set person before opening up to him about your personal feelings? Not all but the one you met and others like him are out fore a few things their not you. First off, "pussy" is the top of the list, second off, looking fore someone to fuck with there mind or "mental" just cause its fun. So please, take the time to get to know someone before opening up to them. You never know if they subscribe to the drama club we call the zone or its just who they are.
If you find that you fall victim to the same old thing, day after day and time after time, it might be time to begin questioning your own patterns and emotional programming. People change for two reasons. Either because they want to, or they've been hurt enough that they have to. Just thoughts from another perspective.
Can I get a huge AMEN! Seriously, you couldn't say it better!
God Bless,
Sarah
hope it was only just feelings. even on the internet, under the age of 18 is still illegal.
The person I referred to wouldn't allow it, thank goodness. Looking back now, I'm glad
they wouldn't. In the case of the second person, I was ranting in the face of anger. But
yes, you can fall victim to anything and anyone on the internet, if you allow it. Anyone
can. Now, I try to avoid being either the victim or the one making victims out of
people. Five months ago it wouldn't have mattered.
You think this happens only to young girls. I know of a lot of women my own age it happens to too. I had a friend who had a guy who got her pregnant, and until then never told her about his wife. There are not only male players out there either. There are just as many women players who will screw their man's best friend in his own bed. The best thing you can do is learn from the situation. Look for signs the guy isn't everything he says he is, aned don't give him your heart so easily. So many people on here believe I can't get a boyfriend, but the truth is from prior events of my life this year I am not ready to put my heart on the line again. I had two different men use me. I am honestly in the midst of taking a long break from being romantically involved with a guy. Because you never know what you will get on the web, or off the web. I just know I haven't had good luck with men at all for nine years. So, I am going to be single, and not look for someone, and when the time is right the right person will find me.
evain, you have the right idea re men. learn to like yourself and appreciate yourself. after you've accomplished this, then the right kind of men will find you attractive.
eboniy flames, although it is very hard to follow my advice, try it. no one wants to hear our whole life story in the first ten minutes after weare introduced. good listeners who talk infrequently are much more likely to find contradictions in the stories we hear. people who lie are usually not smart enough to keep their stories straight. in an organization to which I belong someone asked for assistance. at the same time, another group contacted me to get this person help. what I heard was this "they lost their sight in four or six years." at the same time they lived in Chicago and wwashington dc. isn't that amazing? also simultaneously, they were staying in a homeless shelter and a hotel. especially on the internet, we need to listen, take notes, and watch our backs. finally, if someone or something looks too good to be true, it or they probably are.
So true anything that appears outrageously amazing you need to do research on them.
Unfortunately it doesn't happen just online. However,your chances of it happening online
have a much higher statistical rate. My advice is focus on your health. Men will always be
around, and honestly I think you need to heal from everything.